This is a guest post by my friend Sonja, who writes over at The Big Dharma Theory. Enjoy!
Don’t worry. This isn’t a primer on Israel/Palestine, but rather a guide on how to carry on a romantic relationship between partners of different nationalities. Having been described by friends as a “Euro-Sexual,” I feel I’m somewhat of an expert in this area. My ex is Icelandic and my current partner is Portuguese. (Oh yes, I’m an American, as you may have already surmised.) I’ve lived in Iceland and am right now, RIGHT NOW!, typing this up in Lisbon as I have been abandoned in the familial apartment while my partner watches the World Cup soccer game between Portugal and North Korea.
(First tip: If your partner is European, become acquainted with soccer and try to understand the offsides rule. Also, become comfortable with the fact that games can end in a tie. This is a very un-American thing and harder to accept than I thought.)
Bi-cultural relationships are the norm in my family. My grandmother is German, my grandfather American. Of their children, three out of four married non-Americans (a Frenchman, a German, and a Chinese woman to be specific). My father was the odd one out – both of my parents are American. Even amongst my generation it’s been the trend to “prefer” partners of other nationalities – my German cousin is in a relationship with a Turkish man and one of my French cousins has been in a relationship with an American. (I guess that only half counts, as he’s half-American, but has never lived in the US.) I’ve carried the torch myself, having married an Icelander and now have a long-term Portuguese partner.
Now that I’ve explained my credentials, here are my relationship “hacks” for optimizing a bi-cultural relationship:
I’m sure Kelsey will be able to expand on anything I missed, but there are some pro-tips for carrying on a happy Bi-Cultural relationship. If you’re as lucky as I am, it will involve being introduced to beautiful places and some pretty damn amazing food in addition to having a wonderful partner.
Sonja is a nanny and artist living in Providence, Rhode Island. A producer of beautiful collages and other works of art, she has lived in Vermont, Iceland, Massachusetts, and Rhode Island. She likes octopi, rain boots, her Portuguese boyfriend Nuno, and her cat Wensleydale. She blogs at The Big Dharma Theory.
[Header Image by Tricia Ward. All other images by Sonja.]
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